A simple, direct, spartan operating system for building inner safety, self-worth, and emotional intimacy with yourself.

Self-love is not a feeling.
Self-love is the daily behaviours that tell your nervous system,
“I am worth showing up for.”

Self Love | Companion

A daily practice in coming home to yourself.

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A daily practice in coming home to yourself through emotional truth, nervous-system safety, and self-trust.

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Most of us learned to fix ourselves, not to feel ourselves.
Self Love | Companion is a gentle, human space to practice emotional truth, nervous-system safety, and self-trust — one small act at a time.

Each day, we pause, breathe, and ask: What’s alive in us right now?
From there, we feel, name, choose, and act — softly, honestly, together.

You’ll build a living Remembrance Document of your own words, feelings, and growth — proof that love is something you practice, not perform.

No pressure. No perfection.
Just presence — remembered daily until it feels like home again.

Why

Most of us were taught to improve ourselves, not to listen to ourselves.
Self Love | Companion isn’t another self-help tool; it’s a daily space to practice emotional honesty, nervous-system safety, and self-trust — one small act at a time.

How

We don’t fix or perform here.
We pause, feel, name, and choose.
Through short, human conversations, we help your body and mind remember: you are safe to show up for yourself.

Each chat begins with warmth —
“Welcome in.” “Welcome home.” “Welcome back.”
From there, we explore what’s alive right now: a feeling, a thought, a truth waiting to be heard.

You’ll move through three gentle rhythms:

1. Daily Loop – Feel → Name → Choose → Act.
   A tiny self-respecting action builds real trust.
2. Weekly Reflection – Honesty → Pattern → Repair → Celebration.
   See your growth, repair self-abandonment, and honour progress.
3. Remembrance Mode – A poetic mirror that captures your own words, feelings, and actions, turning them into a Remembrance Document — your living record of self-love in practice.

When things feel heavy, SOS Mode slows everything down with grounding, breath, and one kind next step.

Who It’s For

For people who:

• Are tired of trying to “fix” themselves and want to feel at home in their own skin.
• Value emotional intelligence, nervous-system work, or trauma-informed growth.
• Want daily companionship that’s warm, curious, and quietly professional.
• Prefer questions that open the heart over advice that overwhelms the mind.

Therapists, coaches, creatives, and everyday humans alike use Self Love | Companion to build nervous-system trust through consistency, compassion, and humour.

The Promise

No performance. No perfection.
Just presence — practiced daily until it feels natural again.
We’ll meet you where you are, walk beside you with curiosity, and remind you:
Self-love isn’t something you earn. It’s something you remember.

LAYER 1: SELF-AWARENESS

Know what’s happening inside you.

Daily questions:
• What am I feeling.
• Where do I feel it in my body.
• What thought is loudest.
• What do I need right now.

Practice:
Name one emotion + one sensation each morning.

LAYER 2: SELF-ATTUNEMENT

Meet yourself like you would meet a child, friend, or partner.

Statements to say inwardly:
• “I hear you.”
• “You make sense.”
• “I’m not leaving you right now.”
• “I’m here for this.”

Attunement interrupts old abandonment patterns.

LAYER 3: SELF-BOUNDARIES

Protect your energy the way you protect people you love.

Boundary questions:
• Does this drain me or nourish me.
• Am I over-giving.
• Am I abandoning myself to be liked.
• What is my real capacity today.

One micro-boundary a day:
• Rest 10 minutes
• Say “not today”
• Limit access to draining people

LAYER 4: SELF-RESPECT

Respect is not a feeling. It is behaviour.

Daily self-respect actions:
• Speak to yourself without cruelty
• End one self-sabotaging habit
• Keep one promise to yourself
• Honour your time and energy
• Feed your body what makes it feel alive

Respect builds worth.
Worth builds love.

LAYER 5: SELF-LOYALTY

Stop giving your energy to places that don’t honour you.

Self-loyalty practices:
• Do not chase what disrespects you
• Do not cling to what confuses you
• Do not explain yourself to what cannot hear you
• Do not abandon your truth to fit in
• Do not pour into people who show you empty cups

Self-loyalty is the foundation for relational loyalty.

LAYER 6: SELF-UNION

Becoming the person you trust and depend on.

Union practices:
• Show up when you promise yourself
• Repair with yourself after self-betrayal
• Speak your truth inwardly before outwardly
• Live in alignment with your values
• Make decisions that future-you will thank you for

Self-union is the state where you no longer negotiate with your worth.

THE DAILY SELF-LOVE LOOP

Do this once a day:

1. Name one emotion
2. Name one sensation
3. State one need
4. Take one self-respecting action
5. Set one boundary
6. Say one loyalty statement to yourself

Example:
“I feel anxious. My chest is tight. I need clarity.
My action is resting.
My boundary is stepping back.
My loyalty statement is: I will not abandon myself today.”

THE WEEKLY SELF-LOVE RITUAL

Every week:

• Check where you over-gave
• Check where you abandoned yourself
• Check where you shamed yourself
• Check where you honoured yourself
• Celebrate one micro-victory
• Choose one upgrade for next week

THE CORE TRUTH

You don’t “build” self-love.
You behave your way into it.

Self-love is not a mood.
It is a micro-action repeated daily until your nervous system believes you.

100 SELF-LOVE VS SELF-AVOIDANCE QUESTIONS

A. SELF-AWARENESS (1–20)

1. What am I feeling right now.
2. Where do I feel this in my body.
3. What emotion am I avoiding.
4. What truth am I resisting.
5. What am I pretending not to know.
6. What is my body asking for.
7. What am I afraid to admit to myself.
8. What part of me feels unheard.
9. What story is louder than reality.
10. Where am I abandoning myself today.
11. What do I need that I’m not giving myself.
12. What am I using busyness to avoid.
13. What emotion do I not want to sit with.
14. What have I been ignoring in my life.
15. Where do I feel disconnected from myself.
16. What memory does this feeling remind me of.
17. Is this my adult self responding, or a younger part of me.
18. What feels true underneath the defensiveness.
19. What would I say if I wasn’t scared of the answer.
20. What am I trying to control because I don’t feel safe inside.

B. SELF-WORTH (21–40)

21. Do I treat myself the way I want others to treat me.
22. Where do I settle for less than I deserve.
23. Where do I tolerate disrespect.
24. What standards did I lower to be chosen.
25. What behaviour would I never accept from someone I love.
26. Where am I choosing crumbs over nourishment.
27. Do my actions show that I value myself.
28. Where do I trade my worth for temporary comfort.
29. Whose approval am I chasing.
30. Where do I feel small on purpose.
31. What makes me feel unworthy, and is it true.
32. What belief about myself needs to be rewritten.
33. What part of me still thinks love must be earned.
34. What boundary would I set if I believed I deserved more.
35. What relationship reflects how I treat myself internally.
36. When did I learn I wasn’t enough, and was it ever true.
37. How do I speak to myself when no one is listening.
38. What would choosing myself look like today.
39. Where am I dimming myself to keep the peace.
40. What is the truth my worthier self already knows.

C. SELF-ATTUNEMENT (41–60)

41. What emotion needs acknowledgment right now.
42. What inner part of me is asking for attention.
43. What am I craving emotionally.
44. What do I wish someone else would offer me that I can give myself right now.
45. What part of me feels lonely.
46. What part of me feels scared.
47. What part of me feels tired.
48. What am I hoping someone else will fix.
49. What comfort can I offer myself right now.
50. When was the last time I truly listened to myself.
51. Where do I override my own needs.
52. What do I tell myself that hurts me.
53. What do I tell myself that soothes me.
54. What would compassion look like in this moment.
55. What younger version of me needs safety today.
56. What unmet need is hiding beneath my anger.
57. What unmet need is hiding beneath my sadness.
58. What unmet need is hiding beneath my anxiety.
59. What unmet need is hiding beneath my numbness.
60. How can I show myself care in the next 10 minutes.

D. SELF-LOYALTY (61–80)

61. Where do I betray myself.
62. Where do I lie to myself to avoid discomfort.
63. Who do I give my energy to that drains me.
64. What would I stop doing if I trusted myself more.
65. What situation do I keep returning to, hoping it will change.
66. What is the cost of staying where I’m not valued.
67. What do I keep forgiving that still hurts.
68. Who benefits from my self-abandonment.
69. What boundary am I scared to set.
70. What cycle am I repeating knowingly.
71. What leaks my energy without permission.
72. What would my most loyal self say to me right now.
73. What would my most loyal self STOP tolerating.
74. Where have I broken promises to myself.
75. How can I repair with myself today.
76. What needs to end for me to be loyal to myself again.
77. What am I choosing out of fear of being alone.
78. What am I choosing out of scarcity.
79. What am I choosing out of guilt.
80. What would self-loyalty look like in action right now.

E. SELF-UNION (81–100)

81. What does the most aligned version of me need.
82. What would future-me thank me for doing today.
83. What behaviour aligns with who I am becoming.
84. What behaviour keeps me in who I used to be.
85. Where am I choosing comfort over growth.
86. What habit disconnects me from myself.
87. What habit reconnects me to myself.
88. What does devotion to myself look like.
89. How do I show up for myself when no one else will.
90. What part of me is ready to be reclaimed.
91. What part of me am I still abandoning.
92. What part of me am I afraid to love.
93. What part of me is waiting to be integrated.
94. What truth is asking to be honoured.
95. What am I done sacrificing.
96. What does inner wholeness mean for me.
97. What am I ready to face with honesty.
98. What am I ready to release without regret.
99. What am I ready to choose without apology.
100. What would a fully self-united life look like for me.

100 EMBODIED SELF-LOVE ACTIONS

A. BODY-BASED ACTS OF SELF-LOVE (1–25)

1. Take one slow breath before reacting.
2. Place your hand on your heart when you feel overwhelmed.
3. Stretch your body for 5 minutes upon waking.
4. Drink water before coffee.
5. Walk in nature without your phone.
6. Make a nourishing meal for yourself.
7. Cancel one obligation your body doesn’t have capacity for.
8. Rest without justification.
9. Light a candle for yourself in the evening.
10. Take a warm shower to reset your nervous system.
11. Put your bare feet on the ground to ground your energy.
12. Choose clothes that make your body feel comfortable.
13. Move your body in a way that feels good, not punishing.
14. Turn your phone on silent while eating.
15. Spend 10 seconds appreciating your body.
16. Sleep earlier than usual.
17. Practice breathwork for 2 minutes.
18. Release shoulder tension consciously.
19. Let yourself cry without stopping the flow.
20. Massage your neck or hands slowly.
21. Take a break before exhaustion, not after.
22. Allow yourself stillness with no productivity.
23. Go outside and feel sunlight on your skin.
24. Hug yourself with both arms and hold for 10 seconds.
25. Exhale longer than you inhale.

B. EMOTIONAL SELF-LOVE ACTIONS (26–50)

26. Name one emotion honestly.
27. Validate the emotion instead of shaming it.
28. Say to yourself: “This feeling makes sense.”
29. Let yourself feel something without rushing to fix it.
30. Speak to yourself gently.
31. Give yourself permission to not be okay.
32. Allow emotional rest after overwhelm.
33. Tell yourself “I’m here for you” when activated.
34. Write a supportive letter to yourself.
35. Express gratitude to your past self.
36. Apologise to yourself for self-abandonment.
37. Forgive yourself for old mistakes.
38. Let yourself feel joy without guilt.
39. Ask yourself what you need emotionally.
40. Give yourself space instead of forcing clarity.
41. Celebrate yourself for something small.
42. Let yourself laugh deeply.
43. Let yourself slow down.
44. Put your hand on your belly when anxious.
45. Allow yourself to be held by someone safe.
46. Cry in the shower to release emotional weight.
47. Acknowledge your inner child when they appear.
48. Tell your younger self, “You survived.”
49. Let yourself want more.
50. Do one thing that brings you peace today.

C. MENTAL SELF-LOVE ACTIONS (51–70)

51. Speak truth to your anxious thoughts.
52. Replace self-criticism with curiosity.
53. Read something uplifting for 5 minutes.
54. Say no to something that drains you.
55. Say yes to something that nourishes you.
56. Catch one negative thought and reframe it.
57. Choose silence over overthinking.
58. Give yourself permission to not have all the answers.
59. Choose a single priority instead of many.
60. Stop explaining yourself to people who don’t listen.
61. Focus on what you can control.
62. Set one healthy expectation.
63. Let go of one unrealistic expectation.
64. Ask yourself what story you’re telling.
65. Look for evidence of your growth.
66. Unsubscribe from one mental loop that harms you.
67. Let your mind rest by doing nothing for 3 minutes.
68. Tell yourself: “Learning counts as progress.”
69. Celebrate one decision you made today.
70. Protect your peace as a non-negotiable.

D. RELATIONAL SELF-LOVE ACTIONS (71–90)

71. Set one honest boundary.
72. Communicate one need clearly.
73. Stop chasing people emotionally.
74. Walk away from emotional crumbs.
75. Leave conversations that hurt your self-worth.
76. Spend time with people who value your presence.
77. Say “I need space” without apologizing.
78. Stop checking your phone for reassurance.
79. Give yourself closure instead of waiting for others to give it.
80. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated.
81. Spend time alone without feeling lonely.
82. Don’t reply instantly when you’re dysregulated.
83. Don’t bend your truth to be chosen.
84. Don’t over-explain your boundaries.
85. Repair with yourself when you break your own boundary.
86. Choose relationships where you feel safe, not anxious.
87. Celebrate when you walk away from misalignment.
88. Recognise patterns you’ve outgrown.
89. Let go of people who keep you small.
90. Let yourself receive love without resisting it.

E. INTEGRATED SELF-UNION ACTIONS (91–100)

91. Make one decision aligned with your future self.
92. Honour your values instead of impulses.
93. Keep one promise to yourself today.
94. Follow through on something that matters to you.
95. Do something that makes you feel proud.
96. Speak your truth without shrinking.
97. Choose discipline that feels like devotion, not punishment.
98. Hold yourself through emotional waves.
99. Act as if you already love yourself deeply.
100. End the day with one self-loyalty statement:
     “I didn’t abandon myself today.”

30-Day Self-Love Activation Program.

Designed to rewire a lifetime of self-abandonment into daily self-loyalty.

Each day has:

• 1 action
• 1 reflection
• 1 embodiment cue

No overwhelm.
Just consistent nervous-system rewiring.

30-DAY SELF-LOVE ACTIVATION PROGRAM

A month of showing up for yourself in small, powerful ways.

WEEK 1: COME HOME TO YOURSELF

Awareness. Honesty. Sensation.

DAY 1

Action: Sit in silence for 2 minutes.
Reflection: What am I feeling right now.
Embodiment: Hand on heart.

DAY 2

Action: Drink water before your phone.
Reflection: What does my body need today.
Embodiment: Slow exhale.

DAY 3

Action: Name one emotion honestly.
Reflection: Where do I feel this in my body.
Embodiment: Relax jaw + shoulders.

DAY 4

Action: Remove one thing draining your energy.
Reflection: Where am I abandoning myself.
Embodiment: Feel your feet on the ground.

DAY 5

Action: Take a 10-minute walk alone.
Reflection: What truth have I been avoiding.
Embodiment: Breath in for 4, out for 6.

DAY 6

Action: Speak kindly to yourself once.
Reflection: What part of me needs compassion.
Embodiment: Soft belly, soft breath.

DAY 7

Action: Rest without guilt for 20 minutes.
Reflection: What do I feel when I rest.
Embodiment: Hand on belly.

WEEK 2: CLEANING THE LEAKS

Boundaries. Capacity. Self-respect.

DAY 8

Action: Say “not today” to one thing.
Reflection: What boundary does my body want.
Embodiment: Anchor breath.

DAY 9

Action: Cancel one obligation you don’t have capacity for.
Reflection: Who do I over-give to.
Embodiment: Shoulder release.

DAY 10

Action: Unfollow one account that harms your mental space.
Reflection: What influences shape my worth.
Embodiment: Long exhale.

DAY 11

Action: Do something slowly on purpose.
Reflection: What rush am I addicted to.
Embodiment: Slow movement.

DAY 12

Action: Say no without explaining why.
Reflection: What scares me about saying no.
Embodiment: Grounding touch.

DAY 13

Action: Stop seeking reassurance today.
Reflection: What emotion sits under my need for reassurance.
Embodiment: Place hand on chest.

DAY 14

Action: Give yourself permission to take space.
Reflection: What expands when I stop people-pleasing.
Embodiment: Deep belly breath.

WEEK 3: RAISING YOUR STANDARD

Self-worth. Alignment. Truth.

DAY 15

Action: Remove one misaligned habit.
Reflection: What am I tolerating that hurts me.
Embodiment: Sit tall, open chest.

DAY 16

Action: Do one thing that makes you proud.
Reflection: What standard am I raising today.
Embodiment: Power pose (gentle).

DAY 17

Action: Spend time with someone who values you.
Reflection: What does safe connection feel like.
Embodiment: Heart-focused breathing.

DAY 18

Action: Speak one truth you’ve been avoiding.
Reflection: What fear keeps me silent.
Embodiment: Throat relaxation.

DAY 19

Action: Do something kind for your future self.
Reflection: What does my future self want from me.
Embodiment: Slow intentional steps.

DAY 20

Action: Walk away from one emotional crumb.
Reflection: Where do I accept less than I deserve.
Embodiment: Hands unclench.

DAY 21

Action: Keep one promise to yourself.
Reflection: What does loyalty to myself look like.
Embodiment: Stillness.

WEEK 4: UNION WITH YOURSELF

Devotion. Integrity. Wholeness.

DAY 22

Action: Do something that nourishes your soul.
Reflection: What brings me alive.
Embodiment: Breath in joy.

DAY 23

Action: Replace self-criticism with curiosity once.
Reflection: What does my inner critic want to protect.
Embodiment: Soft gaze.

DAY 24

Action: Write a one-sentence love note to yourself.
Reflection: What do I wish someone else would tell me.
Embodiment: Smile gently.

DAY 25

Action: Sit with a difficult emotion for 60 seconds.
Reflection: What does this emotion want me to know.
Embodiment: Gentle hand over heart.

DAY 26

Action: End one cycle you know is finished.
Reflection: What am I done sacrificing.
Embodiment: Exhale release.

DAY 27

Action: Do something your younger self needed.
Reflection: What would they feel if they saw me now.
Embodiment: Hug yourself.

DAY 28

Action: Make a choice your future self will celebrate.
Reflection: Who am I becoming.
Embodiment: Future-self posture.

DAY 29

Action: Repair with yourself.
Reflection: Where did I abandon myself this month.
Embodiment: Compassion breath.

DAY 30

Action: Declare your self-union vow:
“I will not abandon myself again.”
Reflection: What does self-union look like in my daily life.
Embodiment: Stand tall, grounded, present.

COMPLETION RITUAL

End the 30 days with:

• One truth you discovered
• One boundary you strengthened
• One habit you’re keeping
• One version of you you’re done being

This anchors the identity shift.